I read Leonard Mlodinow’s Elastic last year, and this week I finished another one of his books: Emotional: How Feelings Shape Our Thinking. I got a lot of useful input that I'm going to process and let it simmer in my brain pot for a while.
Here are the points that really stayed with me and how I’ve seen them play out in my own life (Quick summary!):
1. Feel, don’t fight.
I’ve seen what repressed emotions can do. I’ve been through mental wars and even physical sickness because I tried to push feelings away. Now I try not to lie to myself anymore. I self-assess, face it, and work through it instead of avoiding. Emotions are signals: when I’m triggered, I ask myself; What’s the real message here? When I’m sad, I let myself grieve instead of acting strong. Whatever it is, I let it exist, take note, and go through it.
2. Flip the frame (reappraisal).
Nerves before a presentation? Instead of calling it fear, I tell myself it’s energy I can use to focus. Same sensation, different story. I do this a lot in life: when heartbreak feels like someone’s gripping my chest, I tell myself that I'm in pain, then I lace up and run. I don’t deny the pain, I channel it. That small reframing has saved me from falling into depression more than once.
3. Expression clears the clutter.
Journaling, ranting, drawing, sharing; these aren’t just hobbies, they’re mental decluttering tools. Science says so. (But honestly, I already knew because it works.)
4. Choose your vibe tribe.
Emotional contagion is real. Grow up with an anxious parent, and you carry anxiety. Live with a negative partner, and you slowly absorb that weight. But put yourself in a healthy, kind environment, and you can’t help but soften and be kinder, too. So I curate my emotional environment like I curate my books and playlists, carefully.
5. Emotions aren’t flaws.
They’re not dirt to scrub away. They’re tools, they shape our reality, they reveal who we are. Hard to rewire, sure, but learning about them; why they exist, how they move, gives us options, and maybe can help you to slowly heal.
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I hate it when my dad says I’m “too emotional,” like it’s a defect. It’s not. Yes, if I let my emotions control me, they’ll eat me alive. But I’ve always been curious about people, about the psychology behind it, about why we feel the way we do. My sensitivity fuels that curiosity.
I don’t ever want to stop learning what it means to be human.
At the end of the day, being emotional isn’t a flaw, it’s just part of being alive. And I think it’s okay whether you’re a tad too dramatic, feel a little too much, or fall a bit too intensely. As long as you keep learning and have the tools to manage it, let it be a part of who you are. Kan kan kan.
On the outside, I might seem like one of the most boring people on the social scale. But in my head, I live with a prism of emotions and endless curiosity that keeps me entertained. Without that inner world? I wouldn’t just be boring to others, I’d be boring to myself. So, I'm glad I'm the way I am.
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I used Speechify to help me listen to this ebook.
You can read along while it narrates (great for tough concepts), highlight key points to revisit later, and even pick chapters for AI-generated summaries. Basically, it’s the nerd’s dream toolkit.
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