Little Stories 215 : Small Talks 2

I'm really bad with small talks. 

My mind will usually process conversation straight-forwardly, and I'll give honest opinions/answer according to what's being asked. It is safe if you don't ask me the obvious, rather, ask me like you really want to know the answer of your intended question. 

This is some of the awkward situations happened at the office :

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I was in the pantry at the office and I was pouring a big pack of sugar that I just bought for coffee/tea in the sugar container when she greeted me with :

S : Eh, Azreen beli gula?
A : Tak, garam.
S : ... 

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I was cleaning up my table, getting ready to go home, putting my laptop in my bag  when she said :

S : Azreen tak balik lagi?
A : Tak lah, da balik da.
S : ... *awkward

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That one time I went out to lunch with the girls.

One of the girl was eating chicken tandoori with cheese naan, and on the plate were raw onion and cucumber slices. In my mind, I was struggling to stop myself from discussing about why there were those onion and cucumber slices added alongside of the roasted chicken. 

Because : those raw slices of onion and cucumber can detoxify carcinogens on the roasted chicken - those black burned stuffs. It helps neautralize the food, ditto what happened on satay and that's the reason why they added onion and cucumber slices in the first place. How great our ancestors were, kan !

But I didn't. I know which face will they show if I explain those unwanted random fun facts to them. Because I have no idea how to make small talks so I keep on throwing random things that no one wants to know. Ha. This is why this blog exist in the first place, so I can be the geekiest part of me.

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PS : Are you bad with small talks?
Or do you know someone that is really bad in making small talks?

Little Things 44 : Small Talks

Most introverts hate small talks. 

It is one thing that most of us fail to understand. 

I asked my siblings all the time :

Why would someone want to ask about something personal in short meetings?

What I am currently doing? 

When will I get married? Have children ?

How is my family? 

Where I am working at? 

How much is my salary?

All those small talks people usually do when they meet in short time : weddings, bump into one another at supermarket , while waiting bus , etc.

Some say it is a way to avoid being rude for not asking or trying to care. For my opinion, small talks are a bit rude, you know when people ask something personal because it looks nice and it is what everyone does, and silence or not asking anything seems rude. It is much better to just shake hands, smile and ask 'how are you' , in meeting old-old-old friends, people that you use to know in a class you took several years ago, and such than trying to seems like you care. 

Social Interaction for introverts :

They dislike small talk and would rather say nothing than something they feel is insignificant. Although introverts are quiet, they will talk incessantly if they’re interested in the topic. They also dislike being interrupted when they talk, or when they’re working on some project. - Carol Bainbridge

It is something that I found a bit relieving when I feel much much much comfortable for not having to ask anything and trying to keep up in a short conversation. This explains why my mom said my aunts are scared to talk to me because I look uninviting and even several other mums said that too. I know how my aura of "don't-try-to-small-talk-with-me" because I usually see it from people's reaction after I give that aura. Ha. In a way, it is much better if you talk - I just listen, and I'll talk when I feel like talking. 

Waiting for me to ask anything will take probably take so much processing in my mind that it left me exhausted afterwards. I am serious. 

Anyhow, for any introverts who wants to learn the art of small talk, read :

How to Quickly Improve your Ability to Small Talk 

Hate Small Talk?

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PS : Mum said "stop making that serious face of yours, smile like your sister". 

I am being myself. 

I am serious.

:D